A week ago this day, I was driving my wife to the hospital for what we thought would be her ultimate pregnancy check-up before her due date.
It was indeed. She gave birth after the appointment. Before we knew it, we were propelled into parenthood.
To my dear readers: no post today apologies. I'm at the hospital with my wife and our newborn daughter. So happy! 🙂
— TheMoneyMine (@TheMoneyMine) September 16, 2016
The most amazing experience of all
I have to say this : witnessing the birth of your own child is BY FAR the most amazing and intense experience. For those of you without kids who value experiences over material possessions, you know what you’ve got to do now 🙂
All this work for the last 9 months to prepare for the delivery. All this work in the last 12h to make the pain manageable. All this pushing to finally see our daughter’s head coming out. It was intense.
when is the last time you were so happy you cried?
But wait! The best is how everything concludes: after 270 days of preparation and almost 24h of labor, the actual delivery happens in a few seconds! So much suspense, so much intensity and all of it suddenly becomes so real!
I instantly cried out of joy. This was so surreal, in a good way. I mean, when is the last time you were so happy you cried?
That’s when I realized:
- A living human being was just born and seeing our world for the very first time,
- I had just become a dad for real,
- All the items on my todo list had suddenly been demoted to “not important, will do when time permits”.
The biggest lie of all
That’s when it all starts to get fun 🙂
The first couple of days in the hospital were like a parenting bootcamp. We were in heaven for a few moments but then everything happening quickly became overwhelming. Tests for this. Paperwork for that. Send pictures to family & friends. Order food before the cafeteria closes. Meet the nurse. The pediatrician. The doctor. The lactation consultant. Send more pictures to family & friends. Try to make sense of baby’s first cries. Try to find some time to sleep. Try to run a marathon without practice.
Who ever coined the phrase “sleeping like a baby” was obviously joking
Returning home went surprisingly well. Baby was sleeping well, breast feeding was easy and everything looked manageable. For a second, it looked like we had nailed it.
Then it happened: baby wouldn’t sleep.
On day 5, baby decided to wake up every hour from 11pm onwards. There was no nurse to call anymore and we just had to improvise. I got up probably 6 times that night. I had breakfast (diner?) at 3am. I had another breakfast (lunch?) at 11am when I actually got up.
It was better the following night but back to a no-sleep night the next.
Who ever coined the phrase “sleeping like a baby” was obviously joking. Or lying. I have “slept like a baby” before and that was precisely the opposite of what we have experienced these few nights.
What this taught me about Financial Independence
The sudden realization of parenthood also made me realize that Financial Independence also got demoted on my todo list. Not as much as looking for a cheaper car insurance, but still.
I have no doubt that we will get there and it currently looks like we’ll beat out goal of 2022 by approximately 2 years. But whether this ends up being 2020 or 2022, there isn’t a lot more I can do to improve this. It’s the 80/20 rule. We’ll reap most of the benefits with our high savings rate and the markets will do the rest.
Spending more time on how to optimize our FI date is unfortunately bound to see diminishing returns. I’d like to now spend that time on my daughter’s development. That means reading a little less about asset allocation and wealth management (I’ve got some great post(s) on the topic in my drafts folder) and reading more about parenting.
One thing is certain however, I am very excited to know that we’ll be FI around the time our daughter will turn 5. Knowing that we’ll be covered financially whatever happens is important. And our daughter will reap the benefits of having happy, relaxed parents, even if there’s a downturn like the one we’re currently going through in the Oil & Gas industry.
Hope you’re all heading for a great week-end. I personally can’t wait to get some sleep!